Couples Counseling

It starts with an overflowing trashcan in the kitchen.

A simple argument about taking out the garbage turns into a major fight. Harsh, angry words are said that provoke more harsh, angry words in return. Accusations are met with defensiveness until finally one of you walks away in tears or silent frustration.

No matter what provoked the fight, it’s really the same fight, the same core issues that never seem to get resolved. Unmet expectations. Unmet needs. Feelings of being unappreciated and disrespected. Deep hurt.

You ask yourself how someone who supposedly loves you could treat you this way. You wonder if you’re the one who is screwed up. Has your relationship reached the point of no return?

This is not what you hoped for when you got together. What happened?

When you first got together, you couldn’t get enough of each other. It felt magical. You were on your best behavior. You were eager to meet your partner’s needs. Long conversations, common interests, fun times spent together deepened your emotional connection and commitment.

You disagreed sometimes, but your arguments rarely became full of animosity and hostility. You were kind and loving, listening intently, trying to understand each other from the other’s point of view.

Over time, things changed. Your lives got busy. Children entered the picture. Your partner stopped doing many of those things that were so important in the beginning. You did, too. You found that the person you put on a pedestal wasn’t so perfect.

After you fall in love, you’re supposed to live happily ever after. Right?

I can provide strategies to help improve your relationship.

Rarely do people get the knowledge and training they need to create a successful, loving relationship, to communicate effectively and manage the inevitable conflict that is part of every relationship.

If you were fortunate, your parents were role models of a good relationship, but that isn’t always the case.

You’ve invested energy and time in your relationship. You’ve tried everything you can think of to improve it.

Every unhappy relationship is unhappy in its own unique way. You need an experienced counselor who can help you identify problem areas and give you practical, effective strategies to improve them.

Gottman Method Couples Counseling – A program that truly helps.

Dr. John Gottman has been studying couples for over 40 years. He has identified factors predicting which couples stay together and which couples don’t, as well as the components of successful relationships.

The Gottman Method helps couples increase trust and commitment by teaching them concrete ways to manage conflict in healthy ways, improve communication, and increase intimacy. There can be a return to respect and affection by utilizing the Gottman Method. And we will also use The Gottman Method to foster empathy and understanding, and address problems and remove barriers that have resulted in stagnation, discord, and hurt.

A hallmark of the Gottman method is a thorough assessment of your relationship so that targeted interventions can be implemented. Relapse prevention is also emphasized.

I have completed Gottman Method training and have used it successfully with hundreds of couples.

I’m ready to help you and your partner.

Those who want to strengthen their relationship.

Those who want to repair their relationship and keep their family together.

Those who are considering separation or divorce.

Those who need to recover from infidelity.

Those who are seeking premarital counseling.

Please call me at (662) 435-0050, email me, or complete the contact form below to schedule a free consultation.